God's Solutions for Today's Problems #16

Our passage from the Word of God today is Matthew 5:28. It reads, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."

Our quote for today is from Chuck Swindoll. He said, "Adultery occurs in the head long before it occurs in the bed."

Our problem today is "The Problem of Adultery in Your Life" (part 5) from the book, "The Guide to Biblical Counseling" by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

Proverbs 6:32 says, "But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul."

Now, we will offer some WISE COUNSEL for the Person Who Is the UnFaithful Spouse:

- Require full disclosure of the steps leading up to the adultrous act, the details of the relationship, and any information that was kept hidden.

- There will be a "withdrawal" factor as you break off any connection with the third party.

- You will need to reengage emotionally with your spouse by spending as much time as possible with him or her.

- You will need to begin a lifestyle of accounting for all of your time to begin to rebuild trust.

- Understand that healing will take time. Developing new patterns and a commitment to learn about yourself and your spouse on a deeper level will be involved in the healing process.

- Seeking forgiveness also involves restoration and a deeper commitment to love and honor your spouse than has been previously given.