God's Solutions for Today’s Problems #14

Our passage from the Word of God today is Proverbs 6:32. It reads, “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.”

Our quote for today is from C.S. Lewis. He said, “The monstrosity of sexual intercourse outside marriage is that those who indulge in it are trying to isolate one kind of union (the sexual) from all the other kinds of union which were intended to go along with it and make up the total union.”

Our problem today is "The Problem of Adultery in Your Life" (part 3) from the book, "The Guide to Biblical Counseling" by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

Janis Abrahams Spring said, "By the most conservative estimate...in the United States, 1 in every 2.7 couples --- some 20 million --- is touched by infidelity. That number equals almost 4 out of 10 husbands and 2 ou of 10 wives."

We will now share some Wise Counsel.

Healing is possible after infidelity. Increasing numbers of couples are braving the path of forgiveness and the restoration of their marriages. To begin the healing process, both spouses will need to:

- understand what caused the infidelity in the marriage. This will require a long, thoughtful look at the marital pattern that has developed, as well as what each person has contributed to the marital breakdown. Difficult though it is, each spouse should focus on his or her own issues as opposed to criticizing and blaming the other person for the problem of infidelity.

- rebuild trust in each other by telling each other the truth and by being accountable to each other. It is vital for each person to keep his or her word. If one spouse promises to do something, he or she needs to follow through and do it. Finally, trust can be rebuilt by using gestures of affection and nonsexual touch to express caring and affirmation.

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