God's Solutions for Today's Problems #13

Our passage from the Word of God today is Exodus 20:14. It reads, “Thou shalt not commit adultery.â€

Our quote for today is from Woodrow Kroll. He said, “When adultery walks in, everything worth having walks out.â€

Our problem today is "The Problem of Adultery in Your Life" (part 2) from the book, "The Guide to Biblical Counseling" by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Ron Hawkins.

Scott Stanley said, "The best way to ensure your marriage is to maintain your friendship. A lot of times, what men miss most is the time they spend just hanging out with their wives. That's why so many affairs begin as friendships --- it's that intimacy a man is looking for."

We will now tackle some questions for the faithful spouse, the unfaithful spouse, and the unfaithful spouse who wants to restore the marriage.

FOR THE FAITHFUL SPOUSE:

1. How did you find out about the infidelity?

2. How long have you known?

3. What do you feel you need right now in light of this information?

4. What feelings has this stirred up for you? (It is not uncommon for you to feel a variety of emotions from resentment to sadness.)

5. What do you want to do about your relationship with your spouse?

6. Are you willing to work with a professional counselor to explore the wounds that have been created?

FOR THE UNFAITHFUL SPOUSE:

1. Have you told your spouse?

2. What prompts you to want to discuss this now?

3. Do you want to restore your marriage? (It is not uncommon for you to feel confused as to what you want to do, especially if the affair was longstanding and/or involved a deep emotional commitment.)

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