High performers suffer in secret - in this episode, you'll find out why.

Mike O'Neill sits down with Rachel Alexandria, a former psychotherapist turned somatic coach, to uncover the hidden struggles of successful people.

Rachel shares insights into the world of high achievers, revealing that beneath their polished exterior often lies a sea of overwhelm, perfectionism, and people-pleasing tendencies.

Mike digs deep, asking Rachel about the origins of high-performing behavior. Her response? Many were "parentified children" - kids who picked up the slack when adults weren't reliable.

The conversation takes an interesting turn as they discuss the concept of "secret messes" - the unseen challenges faced by those who seem to have it all together.

Rachel explains that success often comes at a cost. While high performers excel in their careers, other areas of life may suffer. Loneliness at the top is a common theme, especially for women in leadership positions.

Mike probes further, questioning why loneliness increases with responsibility. Rachel provides a thought-provoking analogy: "You don't really want the President of the United States to come and sit with you and cry about how hard it was to order the military to do something."

This episode offers a rare glimpse into the minds of high achievers, challenging our perceptions of success and reminding us that even those who seem to have it all face their own set of unique challenges.

Key points to look out for:

The hidden "secret messes" of high performers

• How childhood experiences shape high-achieving behavior

• The paradox of success: career growth vs. personal relationships

Whether you're a high performer yourself or simply curious about the psychology behind success, this conversation between Mike and Rachel provides valuable insights and food for thought.

Find all the show notes and links here: https://www.unstuck.show/179