Does getting married make LGBTQ+ people ‘normal?’ Is getting married selling out to the patriarchy and heteronormativity or it is an act of activism? We are joined by singer, drag queen, writer Tom Rasmussen. Tom's new book, First Comes Love is an exploration of marriage in the 21st century and is one of our favourite reads this year. You can now get ad free episodes of our podcast, visit www.gaynongay.com/donate to sign up to our patreon. Visit www.gaynongay.com for merch, live dates & more. Love you babes x Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.