Two men talking about fatherhood, presence, and managing expectations. This isn’t a blueprint. It’s a conversation.

Vin Infante has strong views — on work, fatherhood, therapy, homeschooling, entrepreneurship, and what it means to show up as a man. You might not agree with all of it, but that’s the point. These are the kind of conversations that surface things many won’t say out loud. Vin is a former FDNY firefighter and mental performance coach.

What We Talk About:

• Having energy (and protecting it)
• Being a dad, not just a provider
• Homeschooling and college
• Hustle culture, addiction, and why it’s hard to stop
• Tony Robbins
• Bullying, identity, and surviving dark moments
• Expectations (and how they mess with your peace)

Chapters:

• 00:44 – Morning energy and routine
• 02:05 – Presence vs. providing: parenting wake-up call
• 03:23 – Fatherhood and rejecting old models of masculinity
• 05:19 – Work-life integration and entrepreneur burnout
• 07:57 – Designing a day around health, family, and purpose
• 10:40 – School, AI, and why Vin’s homeschooling his daughter
• 15:01 – Regret and the weight of missed moments
• 20:17 – Identity roles: dad, husband, business owner
• 24:00 – Letting go of control and trusting your team
• 27:21 – Expectations, frustration, and Stoic mindset
• 30:31 – Info overload and filtering what matters
• 34:21 – Addiction, dopamine, and emotional disconnection
• 39:40 – Reading, self-reflection, and conscious change
• 40:02 – Therapy vs coaching: how Vin found his lane
• 44:18 – Long-term bullying and its lasting impact
• 51:32 – Suicidal ideation and finding reasons to stay
• 53:45 – Becoming a firefighter and trusting the process

Vin Infante