I like fighters and I like lovers; Ingrid Dinter is one that fights for the love of life and she is my guest on this podcast. From Ingrid Dinter - Want to live must be greater than fear of death www.IngridDinter.com (http://www.ingriddinter.com/) You know, when I was first told that there was a cancer recurrence, my first reaction was, "I don't want to die!" That was quick and immediate. And it had both: a sense of self pity and huge fear. Everybody would nod their head, everybody would tell me that they understand. And many people would give me an energy of "poor thing". I noticed that this was keeping me stuck in fear and cluelessness. And also: What a strange thing to say, as we ARE going to die eventually. So what's the point of saying this as my big statement of commitment? I realized that in order to find a way to really move on, I had to reframe: "I want to live!" And I am willing to do whatever it takes to do that. What happened next, I was not prepared for: I was shocked to feel resistance. The inner yes came much slower that I expected it to be. I knew that, in order to mean something and transform something, the yes had to come as loudly and quickly as a thunder in a thunderstorm that was hanging directly over my head: "Do I want to live? - YES! BOOM!" And it didn't... I didn't want to die, but I was afraid of the changes I needed to make. It felt like a huge undertaking. A scary one. If I really wanted to live, there could be no compromises, I had to find the best solutions for me. I couldn't cut corners, I couldn't accept excuses. And I realized that this had to be an ongoing, lifelong process without a finish line. No wonder I was hesitant