In this bonus episode, Jim Jackson and Ron Deal discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of blended families through the lens of the Connected Families Framework. Ron, a bestselling author and host of the Family Life Blended podcast, shares his 30+ years of expertise in step-family dynamics. The conversation explores how step-parents can build emotional safety with children who may be resistant to new relationships. Ron emphasizes that safety must precede love, explaining that children often bristle against a step-parent’s affection due to grief, loyalty conflicts, or simply not being ready for that relationship.

Key insights include:

• The importance of “pacing” with children at their readiness level
• How step-parents can acknowledge their role without trying to replace biological parents
• Practical approaches to discipline and household rules when facing resistance
• Building respectful relationships with biological parents in the other household

Mentioned in this podcast:

• Galatians 6:1
• Romans 12
• The Smart Step Family – Ron’s comprehensive book on blended family dynamics
• Building Love Together in Blended Families – Ron co-authored with Gary Chapman, integrating love languages with step-family principles
• FamilyLife Blended Podcast
• The Smart Step Family video curriculum – Email blended@familylife.org for free online access
• The Mindful Marriage
• Certificate in Blended Family Ministry – online training through FamilyLife

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Guest Bio:

Ron is the bestselling author of more than a dozen books and resources, a licensed marriage and family therapist, podcast host, and a Senior Director for the ministry of FamilyLife®. In addition, Ron is one of the most widely read and referenced authors on blended families. His latest #1 Amazon bestselling book, The Mindful Marriage, coauthored with his wife Nan and Terry and Sharon Hargrave brings the proven principles of Restoration Therapy to a mass audience. The Deals live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at RonDeal.org.

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