Donna Hicks is an Associate at the Weatherhead Center for International Affairs at Harvard University and the former Deputy Director of the Program on International Conflict Analysis and Resolution (PICAR). She has facilitated dialogues in numerous unofficial diplomatic efforts and was a consultant to the BBC in Northern Ireland, where she co-facilitated a television series, Facing the Truth, with Archbishop Desmond Tutu. She is the author of Dignity: It’s Essential Role in Resolving Conflict and Leading with Dignity: How to Create a Culture That Brings Out the Best in People*.

Everyone wants to be treated in a way that shows they matter. We may differ in status, but we are all equal in dignity. In this episode, Donna and I explore how appreciating dignity can help us bring out the best in people.

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• Everyone wants to be treated in a way that shows they matter.
  
• Dignity is different than respect. Everyone has dignity, but not everyone deserves respect.
  
• A major misconception of dignity is that we receive our worth from external sources.
  
• We’re at our best when connected to our own dignity, connected to the dignity of others, and connected the dignity of something bigger.
  
• Start with vulnerability and empathy. These open the doors to connecting with your own dignity and the dignity of others.
  
• We may differ in status, but we are all equal in dignity.
  

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• Dignity: It’s Essential Role in Resolving Conflict* by Donna Hicks
  
• Leading with Dignity: How to Create a Culture That Brings Out the Best in People* by Donna Hicks
  

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