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Ghosting and Blocking and Curving Oh My!

June 29, 2020

It's one of the most detrimental behavior patterns of our generation. Here's everything you need to know to recognize it, avoid it and if you are afflicted with this disease, how to cure it.

CHAPTERS:
0:00 What is ghosting?
2:25 Why do people ghost?
6:25 When does emotional involvement begin?
10:17 Preliminaries and disclaimers
13:15 Having to make backup plans
14:41 Taking our own insecurities out on others
15:16 The most important sentence when it comes to dating
16:45 Runaway brides
19:58 Understanding the devastating effects of ghosting
24:15 Why ghosting makes you someone who can't be trusted
25:05 Why you being uncomfortable is not as important as you think
26:35 Examples of being uncomfortable
30:50 Do you ghost when your finances are involved
34:35 More emotional effects of ghosting
41:46 Stop pretending you don't want hurt the other person
43:34 Curving
46:01 Blocking
48:05 The one key you need to understand boundaries
50:15 Ghosting causes hostility
56:02 Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
57:55 Why you NEED to care about what others think about you
1:00:35 One guiding principle
1:01:54 When you do need to set a boundary. Story time
1:05:50 Why you need understanding when someone ghosts
1:09:19 Another story about someone who gave different reasons for breaking it off
1:14:16 The perils of changing your mind
1:21:22 Secrets to being rejected
1:24:25 An exceptional example of asking for understanding
1:26:20 A woman's sensitivity to tone and intensity
1:27:24 More on healthy boundaries
1:28:51 Do the other persons feelings really matter?
1:32:52 Why if your'e involved with someone, it's your obligation to be a custodian of their emotions
1:35:15 Why it's risky to ask for understanding if you are being rejected
1:38:24 We MUST learn how to reject and be rejected responsibly
1:39:40 Tying it all together

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