Are you on the journey to find lasting love? In this episode of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast, I had an illuminating conversation with Carisa Montooth, a Love Coach, sixth-generation healer, author, and speaker. Carisa combines practical dating strategies with deep emotional and spiritual healing, so keep reading!

Love & Dating Blind Spots

Carisa explains that identifying blind spots in love and dating is crucial. These blind spots are often remnants of unresolved issues from the past, influencing your present behavior and dating patterns.

For example, if you consistently attract partners who aren’t serious about relationships, there may be a subconscious belief at play that needs to be addressed. It could be something like, I’m not worthy of serious love, or people don’t take me seriously, or even love doesn’t last.

Healing Subconscious Blocks

Carisa elaborates on how these blind spots manifest in your dating life. Past experiences shape your responses and behaviors, sometimes holding you back or creating self-sabotage.

If you find yourself repeatedly dating similar types of people or facing the same issues in relationships, it’s a clear sign of a blind spot or block. Recognizing this pattern is the first step towards healing and making healthier choices.

One significant way blind spots reveal themselves is through self-sabotage. Carisa explains that when you’re in a promising dating situation, fear of past traumas can lead you to instinctively sabotage it.

For instance, if you believe that the relationship is too good to be true, you may unwittingly create conflicts or distance, effectively pushing the potential partner away.

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Success & Vulnerability in Dating

I think there’s a big misconception that successful women intimidate men. Carisa agrees, emphasizing that vulnerability and authenticity are key in relationships. It’s essential to let your guard down and not hide behind your accomplishments. Authentic connections flourish when both partners can see and accept each other’s true self.

When it came to the idea of pursuit, Carisa points out that you must align your actions with your intentions. If you want to be pursued, you need to allow that to happen and not jump in to get the ball rolling. This balance is crucial for maintaining a healthy dynamic in a relationship, where both parties feel valued and desired.

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Technology & Dating

I asked Carisa about the biggest change in dating in the 10 years she’s been in business. Her response was technology, which has transformed dating over the past decade.

The instant gratification culture fueled by social media and dating apps often leads to unrealistic expectations. It can also create an impersonal approach to relationships. Carisa highlights the phenomena of ghosting and cloaking, where your partner disappears without explanation, causing psychological distress.

This is particularly traumatic when it happens in a relationship where you’ve been seeing each other for a while. On the other hand, ghosting at the start of dating is normal, part of the process, and to be expected.

Carisa and I agree that establishing healthy communication patterns is essential. Over-relying on technology, like texting and social media for constant reassurance can be detrimental. Finding a balance that suits both partners’ communication styles helps you maintain a strong, healthy relationship.

Sixth Generation Healer

I asked Carisa about her unique background as a sixth-generation healer. This lineage of healing includes naturalists, doulas, dowsers, midwives, and root workers. Carisa integrates this deep-rooted and ancestral knowledge into her practice, offering a comprehensive and unique healing experience for her clients.

Healing from past traumas and subconscious blocks is an integral part of Carisa’s approach. She explains that unresolved grief or beliefs like “I’m too old for love” or “I’ve found my soulmate, so now that’s over” can severely impact your ability to attract and sustain a healthy relationship.

Addressing these wounds on a cellular and spiritual level creates a fresh slate, enabling you to attract a partner who matches your healed, empowered energy. This is one huge reason healing is so important before you set out to find love.

Intuition and Self-Love in Dating

We both stress the importance of self-love and personal fulfillment. When you build a life that feels rich, abundant, and fulfilling, you naturally become more attractive to potential partners.

Carisa shares that affirming and loving yourself deeply is not about perfection; it’s about progress. Continual self-care and self-love create an inviting energy that attracts a compatible and love-ready partner.

She also recommends healing practices and working with healer like herself, to clear energetic blocks and open yourself up to love. Carisa’s clients benefit from her multi-level approach, addressing both practical dating strategies and deeper emotional healing.

Essential Love & Dating Advice

Carisa’s parting advice to anyone seeking love is to stop striving to make love happen and instead, start making love welcome. By fostering self-love, healing past wounds, and staying open, you create the perfect environment for a meaningful connection.

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BIO – Carisa Montooth

Carisa Montooth, M.S. is a Love Coach, Certified 6th Generation Healer, Author and Speaker. Carisa shows single women how to attract and date marriage-minded men without self-sabotage. She helps her clients identify their blind spots in love, heal their subconscious blocks to love, and navigate the dating world with grace and confidence.

Featured in Yahoo FinanceTM as a Top Ten Love Coach, Carisa holds advanced degrees in Psychology and Counseling and has written extensively about topics relating to relationships, dating and

love.

Website & Social Media

Website: https://CarisaMontooth.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/secretseductionsorority

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carisalovehealer/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdgd-8At-80plT8UHS3ry0A

X (Twitter): www.twitter.com/CMontooth

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