RELATIONSHIPS

God cares about our relationships. He loves relationship. Think about this: Even God didn’t do his work alone. He specifically designed the trinity of himself, his son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit to work together. That should tell us how important relationships are to God. In fact it’s why he created YOU. You were designed for relationship. You were never intended to do this life alone.

God could have created Adam and stopped there. He could have enabled Adam to do everything alone. He could have made him a one man show with all the time in the world to do all the work – but he didn’t. God specifically created Eve for Adam, then blessed them with children.

RELATIONSHIPS are God’s design, so YES, he cares about your family, your friends, your circle. And his word has so much to say as a guide to writing goals for those relationships in 2026. From his word, we discover our deepest and most powerful goals.

Remember this, relationship goals are always about how YOU SHOW UP in your relationships, not how anyone else shows up. You cannot control them, so let them. When you let them, you ultimately let you. You let you show up as the wife, the mom, the daughter, the sister, the friend, the coworker, the neighbor God wants you to be. Relationship goals are 100% about how you show up, not about others showing up. Can you trust God enough in 2026 to get it right on his end when you are faithful with yours?

I have 4 scriptures on relationships to share with you. Each of these becomes a guide for your goals.

Scripture 1. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (it’s the wedding scripture), “Love is patient, love is kind …” and it goes on for 4 verses giving us a list of how to specifically live in love. God knew we would struggle with this, so he literally spells it out for us. He says, “My girl, this is what you do and this is what you don’t do.” God actually knows what he’s talking about with relationships, remember he designed them and desired them for himself and you. Trust what he says and apply it to every relationship you have.

Breaking down this familiar scripture point by point, we’re going to look at different translations to apply God’s word to our goals.

Verse 4: “Love is patient, love is kind.” That means you don’t give up, it means be intentionally thoughtful.

“Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.” That means don’t obsess about what you don’t have or what they don’t do, it means don’t force yourself on them, don’t demand to be first like you’re more important.

Verse 5: “Love does not demand it’s own way. It is not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged.” That means don’t keep score, it means don’t be overly sensitive and easily offended.

Verse 6: “Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.” That means stop finding delight in what is wrong. Stop talking about them.

Verse 7: “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” That means you always look for the best, it means you never take failure for defeat, it means you remain steadfast during difficult times.

Do you see the relationship goals you need here? Yes!!!!! Go back, verse by verse, looking at different translations like the MSG translation, TPT translation, NKJV translation, AMP version. You’ll end up with the most powerful goals from God’s word for HOW YOU SHOW UP in your relationships. It has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with YOU!

GOALS:
• Be intentionally thoughtful.
• Let them. (Read the book – The Let Them Theory)
• Be un-offendable.
• Stop talking about who is wrong and what they’re doing.
• Look for the best in others.

GOAL: Be at peace, keep peace, speak peace. Don’t be difficult.

GOAL: Speak positive, life giving words of truth and affirmation. (If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it. Whew, that will change your relationships!)

Scripture 4: Ephesians 4: 2-3, “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.” This means let go of being right. This means apologize quickly and forgive freely. This means don’t nitpick and nag.

GOALS:
• Choose my battles (and most of it simply isn’t to fight over).
• Forgive them.
• Stop nagging.

HEALTH GOALS

Psalm 139:14 says you are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” The word fearfully in Hebrew is yare which means an awe of something sacred. Like the first time I went to the Redwood Forest and I stood in awe of the towering trees. Like the way I look at a hot pink sunset. Like the way I stand on a cliff on the Amalfi Coast and gaze with sheer amazement at the Mediterranean sea. Not fearfully as in afraid, but fearfully as in total awe of it’s beauty. THAT’S THE WAY GOD MADE YOU. He made you in awe and he sees you as wonderful and sacred.

The question is, do you? Do you see yourself in awe? Do you consider your body wonderful and sacred? Do you treat it with love and reverence? What if your health goals for 2026 originate from a place of awe over how perfectly your body is created and the wonderful things it can do, and honoring your creator with the care of what he has so wonderfully made.

Not goals of “lose 50 pounds”, “wear a pink bikini and look good”, “have an ab”, or “run a marathon”. No, first come from a place of honoring the beauty of what God has created and caring for it with reverence.

God cares about your health. He cares about what your body is able to do. He cares about how you treat yourself. Now, let him help you take this tangled web of quick fixes and get skinny fast crap with it’s and twisted ideas of beauty, and get back to his idea of health and beauty.

Scripture 1: 1 Corinthians 6: 19-20, “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God. You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” The MSG translation says your body is a SACRED PLACE. There are things you simply wouldn’t bring into a sacred place. You wouldn’t bring cigarettes in a sacred place. You wouldn’t bring cheetos and twinkies in a sacred place. What are you putting in the sacred place of your body?

GOALS:
• Treat my body as the temple of the Holy Spirit.
• Remember, my body is a sacred place.

GOALS:
• Start small and keep going
• Move my body
• Eat for fuel not for pleasure

Scripture 3: 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God has not give us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline.” This means God has already given you power. He’s already given you self-disciple. You do have willpower because God has given it to you, now it’s up to you to use it. You do have self-control, now get yourself back in control instead of just doing whatever you feel like.

We cannot be ruled by our feelings. The enemy will trick you into never feeling like what you should do, and always feeling like what you shouldn’t do. Your feelings cannot be trusted, but God didn’t design your body to be ruled by feelings. No, he gives you power greater than that. Power to make yourself do what you know is best. Power to push through and show up even when you don’t feel like showing up. Then, by God’s divine design, you end up feelings SO GOOD when you do!

GOALS:
• Stop being ruled by feelings. Tap into my God given power to do what I need to do.
• Exercise my self-discipline and willpower.
• Commit and prove I can.

Scripture 4: Proverbs 16:3, “Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed.”

What if taking care of your body is more than just a goal to look good and fit in your jeans – what if it were a committed action to honor God. What if you sought him FIRST in your health, asked him what to eat, worked out as an act of worship – WOW, that would be different! And what if that commitment of your actions to God is what would bring you success? His word says it will!

GOALS:
• Work out my body as worship to my Creator.
• Seek God for my health plan.
• Honor God with my body.

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