“You can show up with just a feeling. You don’t have to have a neat bow on it.”

Not everyone reacts the same to really hitting it off with someone new. Sometimes things going really well with a new romantic connection can be overwhelming. Meet Katie, whose first steps into a new relationship brought more than just excitement - they stirred a wave of unexpected anxiety. In this episode, Katie shares how a profoundly deep connection with someone new unearthed old mental habits and emotional tension, even though, intuitively, this new person felt right. Through gentle self-awareness and a shift in perspective, she discovered how turning toward her own calm allowed her to show up fully, speak honestly, and experience the relationship as it unfolded - with a spacious, nurturing pace.

Key Takeaways

• Anxiety amid connection: Feeling overwhelmed in a new relationship doesn’t always signal something going wrong - it can reveal how past stories can color and “thought haunt” our present joy.
• Letting go of perfection: Stepping away from expectations of the “ideal” person or the “right way” creates space for real connection and enjoyment, even when things feel uncertain.
• Speaking from peace, not irritation: Communicating openly - even through discomfort - feels different when it comes from inner steadiness instead of reactive emotion, nurturing a culture of mutual understanding.

Lila has a new book!

Lila has written a self-help guide offering a radically different way to date. It shows the importance of understanding yourself rather than working on yourself or your relationship. Establishing the deepest, truest version of yourself will dramatically improve your inner trust and connection with others.

Get your copy of Becoming Relationship Ready on Amazon, Waterstones, or as an eBook at https://www.relationship-ready.co.uk/relationship-ready-book.

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