“I always used to feel responsible for somebody else’s future—and that’s gone. Now, I just enjoy it for as long as it works out.”

Lila Turner sits down with her sister, Zebedee, for a refreshingly real conversation about life after heartbreak, redefining connection, and the magic of dating without the pressure. Zebedee shares her journey from COVID-era breakup blues to building a vibrant, flirt-friendly life rooted in honesty, clarity, and her own invention: the "undate." This episode is full of wit, wisdom, and a radically new take on how to meet people, without the usual rules, pressure, or romantic scripts.

What You'll Love About This Conversation:



• The "Undate" Revolution – Learn how Zebedee created a completely unpressured, joyful way to meet new people without the heavy expectations of dating.
• Being Unedited in Relationships – Discover how showing up honestly (and unedited) can open up deeper communication and surprising clarity.
• Healing + New Starts – Hear how Zebedee rebuilt trust in herself and others post-divorce, and why she believes joy and grief can coexist.

Next Step: Try an “undate” with someone you’re curious about - no pressure, just connection.

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I think you’ll like this episode because Zebedee basically invented a way to meet people that skips all the awkward “is this a date?” tension.

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