Narcissism and co-dependency are not healthy behaviors and KP_Straatmann of TIKTOK viral videos on these topics will explain it all for us.

Kelsey Phalen Straatmann talks to Dr. Justin Trosclair, DC on A Doctor's Perspective Podcast

As a collegiate softball athlete she naturally became a personal trainer (9 years now). She was fascinated by the mental aspect of sports. When asked why she didn’t do sports psychology instead of a Master’s in Social Psychology and a Master’s in Mental Health Counseling with an emphasis on marriage and couple therapies (still in progress), the answer is quite surprising.

How does an elite athlete like Simone Biles make a decision to quit or continue with the impossible amount of pressure laid on her shoulders?

Narcissism and Co-dependency: what are they and how do the co-mingle so often

Narcissism: lack of empathy, dissatisfied with life, bouts of anger, always center of attention, self-obsession, thinking you are better than othersCo-dependency: people pleasing, not able to function without the other person

Don’t be surprised that a narcissist will gaslight a highly empathetic person who doesn’t understand proper boundaries to get what they want and everything they can out of you. Commonly they will make everything your fault and not take any personal responsibility.

What is Love Bombing and what - how - when does the switch get flipped?

Watch out for Negative Comments ie normally I don’t like girls in glasses but on you.. type of comments.

Person was so enamored with gifts and love tokens and kind words that when negative comments or criticisms do occur, they think they did something wrong and try to please the narcissist.Listen to find out why this is not the case and how a narcissist will always take more and manipulate you.

Fight - Love Bomb - Fight Cycle

Fight - Love Bomb - Fight Cycle is all too common and even family and friends have a hard time getting the victim to understand that this is not healthy.

Narcissist has a hard day. Other person does something and narcissist yells at them and then later instead of apologizing will say something like, I wouldn’t have yelled at you IF YOU did not do xyz. Then the normal person feels guilty and tries to fix the situation.

What are the warning signs when they are trying to separate you from your friends and family?

MARKETING

How did she get 2.9 million views on a single TIKTOK video?

What is her strategy to have made several other viral videos and to keep the entertaining but learning aspect of mental health going?

How do you pivot that to making money, endorsements and of course getting new clients?Analyze why you watch the videos you watch

Who are you following on social media and actually consuming their videos? As we say, it could be videos related to your profession that you find interesting and engaging and you can mimic that style. Is your goal to appeal to new patients or to other professionals because that will change your creativity.If you do find yourself watching mindless videos, what do you gravitate towards that are funny? Can you imitate that but with a learning and fun way for others to enjoy about your profession?

Business Types and practice setups for Psychologists are discussed.

Relationship Advice: It’s not just about communication but Comprehension on what the other is talking about. Also, respecting each other’s boundaries.

Books:

The Body Keeps Score
The Sociopath Next Door
The 5 Love Languages
Boundaries

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Kelsey Phalen Straatman has her undergrad in Physical Education, masters in Social Psychology and will soon have a masters in Mental Health Counseling (marriage and couples). Also she has been a personal trainer for 9 years.

Show notes can be found at https://adoctorsperspective.net/178 here you can also find links to things mentioned and the full transcript