Hi lovely people, tell me I'm not the only one struggling with comparison recently. It's funny how it can sneak up on you and you don't realise you've dropped the ball on you positive self talk, until all the negative thoughts culminate in a breakdown!

This episode I talk about the effect comparison has on your self worth, and the importance of focussing on where you are/where you're going and the progress you've made because the bar constantly feels like it's raising if you pursue growth..

I talk about my journey with progress in my life and feeling like a beginner, and my avoidance of opening up because I don't want to appear negative. How I have people tell me about the way they perceive me eg that im strong and I have to be honest and say I feel the weakest I ever have.

It's okay if you need support when you feel vulnerable in your efforts and don't feel the success yet. Even if you feel insecure about what you're doing please keep at it, but if its not what you want to be doing, restart, change what's in your control,. People will judge you all day every day and if you listen to it you're paying the price of losing the life you could have had. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing if you feel fulfilled and satisfied by your projects.

It's also okay if you do all the positive self talk and still feel like sht, its a process. Use your journal to rewire your thoughts for how you perceive your efforts and those around you. Gratitude and reflection is a great way to combat comparison, as well cultivating feeling like you have enough in the now before you move the goalposts again, so you're not in a lacking mindset. Telling someone that you're comparing yourself for them can give them a chance to open up and show you you're putting them on a pedestal.

If you focus on what you dont have, you'll attract negativity and totally limit yourself instead of what you're achieving channelling your energy into the future. Practise supporting yourself and others, valuing their achievements as well as yours, and as someone wise told me, valuing everyone as a collaborator rather than a competitor.