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Change: Dr. L. Carol Scott on Thriving in Unhealthy Environments through Self-Care

June 08, 2023

Surviving in Toxic Environments: Dr. L. Carol Scott shares essential self-care strategies to thrive in the midst of challenging circumstances and navigate the conflict between self-preservation and external pressures.

Does the stress and chaos of an unhealthy environment leave you feeling overwhelmed? Have you been told to just tough it out and keep pushing forward, only to find yourself exhausted and burnt out? It's time to stop the cycle of ineffective self-care and start prioritizing your well-being. Our episode will guide you through essential techniques for navigating change, acknowledging and validating your emotions, focusing on what is within your control, and seizing newfound possibilities. Don't continue to suffer through the pain of an unhealthy environment. Join us and start implementing practical and effective self-care practices for positive well-being.

In this episode, you will be able to:

  • Delve into practical tips for managing the unpredictable nature of change.
  • Recognize the value in honoring and legitimizing your feelings.
  • Acquire skills to target controllable factors amidst upheaval.
  • Develop the art of adapting and tapping into emerging prospects.
  • Comprehend the necessity for self-nurturing and seeking assistance during transitions.

My special guest is Dr. L. Carol Scott

Dr. L. Carol Scott is a trauma-informed developmental psychologist, TEDx speaker,

coach, and #1 International Best-Selling author. Carol brings the SASS—Self-Aware

Success Strategies to help you get along better on the adult playgrounds where you play.

Carol knows that your success today is determined by your first seven years of life.

And she also knows that it’s never too late for Development Do-Overs. As her coaching client, you bring your unique goals for success, and she pulls out the SASS you need to achieve them. Together, you repattern how you operate in every relationship at the heart of your success.

Also a nationally respected thought leader in early care and education (ECE), Carol is former president of the board for Child Care Aware® of America, and the ECE System

Integration Consultant for Early Care Plus, a public benefit technology company revolutionizing access for all parents and caregivers to the ecosystem of ECE services.

As a seasoned psychologist and advocate for self-care, Dr. L. Carol Scott is a sought-after expert when it comes to maintaining one's mental and physical health in challenging situations. Having spent years providing support to individuals in unhealthy environments, she understands the importance of establishing self-care practices that promote personal growth and resilience. Dr. Scott's wealth of experience and personable approach make her a valuable resource for anyone seeking guidance on preserving their well-being in the face of adversity.

We have to break the cycle of unhealthy relationships and create boundaries in order to truly practice self-care. - Dr. L. Carol Scott

Growing up in chaos, Dr. L. Carol Scott learned the importance of self-care early on. But what happens when the unhealthy environment follows you into adulthood? Through trial and error, Dr. Scott discovered the key to thriving in any situation lies in taking control of your own well-being. Her journey proved that even in the toughest of times, you can find peace and balance by prioritizing self-care. Now, Dr. Scott shares her invaluable insights with those facing similar challenges, offering guidance and support to improve their self-care practices. But how did she refine her approach to self-care? Stay tuned to find out.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

  • Share this episode with a friend or family member who is going through a change.
  • Take time to recognize and validate your emotions around change, using tools like therapy or self-reflection.
  • Focus on the parts of the change that you can control and take action where possible.
  • Stay flexible and adaptable, embracing new opportunities instead of resisting them.
  • Practice self-care during times of change, using tools like exercise, mindfulness, or therapy to care for yourself.
  • Consider becoming a Patreon supporter to access exclusive content and interviews with experts like Dr. L. Carol Scott.
  • Check out the resources and tools mentioned in the episode, such as the Enneagram personality test or the book The Change Cycle by Ann Salerno and Lillie Brock.
  • Join the A World of Difference community on social media to connect with others who are navigating change and making a difference in the world.

Recognizing Emotions and Rationalizing Change

Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in dealing with change, as individuals learn to recognize, understand, and respond to their emotions effectively. Emotional intelligence can help individuals approach change with curiosity and self-compassion rather than judgment. When rationalizing change, it's important to differentiate between the aspects that are within one's control and those that are beyond it, as this can help mitigate negative emotions. Dr. L. Carol Scott highlights the importance of being aware of one's emotions throughout the change process. Being able to recognize and give oneself space to process emotions leads to a healthier approach and response to change. Dr. Scott's insights on validating feelings associated with change can help individuals cope with the transition and make informed decisions to move forward.

Does the stress and chaos of an unhealthy environment leave you feeling overwhelmed? Have you been told to just tough it out and keep pushing forward, only to find yourself exhausted and burnt out? It's time to stop the cycle of ineffective self-care and start prioritizing your well-being. Our episode will guide you through essential techniques for navigating change, acknowledging and validating your emotions, focusing on what is within your control, and seizing newfound possibilities. Don't continue to suffer through the pain of an unhealthy environment. Join us and start implementing practical and effective self-care practices for positive well-being.

Does the stress and chaos of an unhealthy environment leave you feeling overwhelmed? Have you been told to just tough it out and keep pushing forward, only to find yourself exhausted and burnt out? It's time to stop the cycle of ineffective self-care and start prioritizing your well-being. Our episode will guide you through essential techniques for navigating change, acknowledging and validating your emotions, focusing on what is within your control, and seizing newfound possibilities. Don't continue to suffer through the pain of an unhealthy environment. Join us and start implementing practical and effective self-care practices for positive well-being.

Self-care is not a luxury, it's a necessity. We must prioritize it in order to show up as our best selves. - Dr. L. Carol Scott

Importance of self-care during times of change

When faced with change, self-care often takes a backseat. However, to adapt and thrive, it's essential to prioritize one's well-being. Self-care practices such as getting sufficient rest, eating well, exercising, and practicing mindfulness can help individuals navigate change with greater ease and resilience. This ultimately translates into a healthier and more productive response to change. During her conversation with Lori Adams-Brown, Dr. Carol Scott emphasized the importance of self-care during times of change. Drawing from her own experiences, Dr. Scott illustrated how prioritizing self-care helps individuals overcome challenging times. By adopting self-care practices, individuals can build a strong foundation for emotional, mental, and physical resilience, enabling them to face life's changes with greater strength and grace.

Recognizing Emotions and Rationalizing Change

Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in dealing with change, as individuals learn to recognize, understand, and respond to their emotions effectively. Emotional intelligence can help individuals approach change with curiosity and self-compassion rather than judgment. When rationalizing change, it's important to differentiate between the aspects that are within one's control and those that are beyond it, as this can help mitigate negative emotions. Dr. L. Carol Scott highlights the importance of being aware of one's emotions throughout the change process. Being able to recognize and give oneself space to process emotions leads to a healthier approach and response to change. Dr. Scott's insights on validating feelings associated with change can help individuals cope with the transition and make informed decisions to move forward.

Remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish, it's necessary for your overall well-being. - Dr. L. Carol Scott

  • Discover essential techniques for navigating the uncertainties of change.
  • Uncover the significance of acknowledging and validating your emotions.
  • Learn how to direct your focus on aspects within your control during challenging times.
  • Explore the benefits of staying agile and seizing newfound possibilities.
  • Realize the importance of self-care and reaching out for help when facing transitions.

The key moments in this episode are:

00:00:02 - Coping with Change,

00:05:06 - Navigating Change in Different Cultures,

00:08:45 - Recognizing Emotions and Rationalizing Change,

00:11:24 - Focusing on Controllable Factors,

00:13:38 - Summary,

00:14:51 - Importance of self-care during times of change,

00:16:19 - Difficulty of practicing self-care,

00:18:39 - Importance of mindfulness,

00:21:17 - Seeking support during times of change,

00:28:57 - Coping with Change,

00:30:00 - Personal Experience with Change,

00:31:50 - Community Support,

00:32:36 - Final Thoughts,

Timestamped summary of this episode:

00:13:38 - Summary,

The podcast episode discusses the importance of recognizing and understanding emotions when faced with change, understanding the different organizational cultures and leadership styles in managing change, and staying flexible and open-minded to embrace new opportunities. Focusing on the controllable factors and managing emotions through rationalization is key in coping with change.


00:14:51 - Importance of self-care during times of change,

During times of transition, it's important to prioritize self-care. This includes getting enough rest, eating well, exercising, practicing mindfulness or meditation, and seeking support from others. Change can make us feel isolated and alone, so it's important to reach out to friends, family, or join a support group. Therapy can also help us maintain and adapt to change.


00:16:19 - Difficulty of practicing self-care,

Our culture expects mothers to constantly give and volunteer, making it hard for them to practice self-care. However, it's especially important for mothers to prioritize self-care during times of transition. This includes getting enough rest, eating well, exercising, practicing mindfulness or meditation, and seeking support from others.


00:18:39 - Importance of mindfulness,

Mindfulness can be challenging but is helpful during times of transition to ground us. Paying attention to our body and being in the present moment can help us process change. Mindfulness can be practiced through quiet time, reading scripture, or using an app. Walking can also be helpful, as the bilateral movement mimics EMDR therapy for trauma.


00:21:17 - Seeking support during times of change,

Change can make us feel isolated and alone, so it's important to seek support from others during times of transition. This can include talking to a trusted friend or family member, joining a support group, or seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. Coping with change takes time and effort, but it's


00:28:57 - Coping with Change,

Dr. L. Carol Scott and Lori Adams-Brown discuss coping with change. They suggest shrinking the change and breaking it down into bite-sized pieces, such as setting a timer for 5 minutes to clean.

00:30:00 - Personal Experience with Change,

Dr. L. Carol Scott shares her personal experience with a difficult and unwelcome change and discusses the steps she took to cope and eventually heal.


00:31:50 - Community Support,

Lori Adams-Brown expresses her gratitude for the podcast's community and the support it provides for listeners going through change. She encourages listeners to share the podcast with others and continue the conversation around coping with change.


00:32:36 - Final Thoughts,

Lori Adams-Brown thanks listeners for their support and wishes them well as they continue to navigate change. She invites listeners to share their experiences and to join their Patreon community for more exclusive content outside of this free episode.


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