Bryan Post is a speaker, author, and one of America’s leading child behavior and adoption experts. He is the creator of the Stress Model, a dynamic theoretical model of human behavior. Through the Stress Model, Bryan has developed Family-Centered Regulatory Parenting and Regulatory Therapy, which have both been taught at the university level and are changing the lives of adults, parents, and families. Bryan is the founder of the Post Institute—an organization dedicated to helping parents heal wounds created by trauma—and serves as the Clinical Director for Parents in Training, a 501(c)3 non-profit organization that provides wraparound services to adoptive families throughout Northern California.

Bryan joins me today to discuss the Stress Model and why it’s important to go to the source of an individual’s trauma. He describes his early life and how stealing, like other forms of addiction, is an attempt to soothe an internal condition. He explains why mental health professionals must work through their own trauma and reveals a critical flaw in society’s mental health systems. He also dissects the relationship between love and fear and underscores how we can empower ourselves to become aware of the source of our pain.

“When we are stressed, we are not in love—we are in fear. We can’t be in a relationship and be in fear.” - Bryan Post

This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:

• The creation of internal chaos and how Bryan started stealing in the first grade
• Intergenerational trauma and the trauma iceberg
• Adoption trauma and why we need to look beyond the behavioral manifestations of trauma
• Flipping the script and how Bryan began his work on healing trauma
• The problem with society’s mental health systems
• The importance of self-compassion, surrender, self-acceptance, and recognizing that we need to do deep healing work
• What creates secure attachment in relationships
• Bryan’s Stress Model and the relationship between love and fear
• Empowering people to grow self-awareness over the root of their pain

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: The Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson and Miriam Klipper
• Book: The Emotional Brain: The Mysterious Underpinnings of Emotional Life by Joseph Ledoux

Connect with Bryan Post:

• Bryan Post Website
• Post Wraparound
• Post Institute
• Book: From Fear to Love: Parenting Difficult Adopted Children Using a Love-Based, Family-Centered Approach
• Book: The Great Behavior Breakdown
• Book: Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: Volume 1 by Heather Forbes and Bryan Post
• Post Institute on Facebook
• Post Institute on Twitter
• Bryan Post on LinkedIn
• Bryan Post on Instagram
• Bryan Post on Facebook
• Bryan Post on YouTube

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