Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

Trauma Hiders Club Podcast


Trauma, Sexual Abuse, and Committed Relationships with Vicki and Tom Dau

April 07, 2022

Vicki and Tom Dau are the owners of Team Dau Wellness. Vicki is an author, mixed media artist, and Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner and Master Coach, while Tom is a home repair contractor. As Team Dau, Vicki, and Tom work with couples in navigating trauma and strengthening their marriages. They are also volunteers for Reclaim 13, an organization that raises awareness and offers recovery from sexual abuse and trafficking.


Vicki and Tom join us today to discuss navigating trauma while in a committed relationship. They discuss bullying, its impact on self-esteem, and the guilt of toxic behavior in previous relationships. They describe their work with couples and share how men can help support their wives as they heal from trauma. They also highlight the role of communication in relationships, discuss what it means to lay the groundwork for impactful conversations, and explain why working together through trauma can be a beautiful thing.


“What can happen to a marriage depends on a couple’s commitment and beliefs. They can divorce and be miserable, or journey together, arm in arm, pulling each other up.” - Vicki Dau


This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

  • The impact of bullying on self-esteem and adult life
  • The guilt of toxic behavior in past relationships
  • My advice for connecting with people like you
  • The fear of working with trauma while in a relationship
  • What inspired Vicki and Tom to work with other couples in healing trauma caused by sexual abuse
  • Becoming a stronger couple by bringing responsibility to both parties
  • How Vicki brings her training as a coach and EFT practitioner into their work with couples
  • Hypervigilance from childhood sexual abuse and building trust between counselor and client
  • How can men support their wives through healing trauma
  • Laying the groundwork for communication in relationships
  • How unaddressed trauma can impact marriages


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