We talk dating rules, the Stoya rape and email a listeners an abusive email.
On Saturday evening, the adult film world was astonished by Stoya’s accusations against James Deen. The two actors previously dated, and Stoya alleged in a set of tweets that he raped her. She had tired of Deen’s outward appearance as a feminist (which may have been aided by his “boy next door” air), and she could no longer simply “nod and smile” at the mention of his name. Two of Deen’s previous girlfriends, Christy Mack and Joanna Angel, stepped up for Stoya, as did voices far and wide with the #solidaritywithstoya hashtag. Surely, Dean’s own tendency to crack rape jokes doesn’t look good.

One of many lingering questions in the accusations’ wake revolves around how the this could affect the adult film industry. That remains to be seen and will likely play out over a long period of time. In the immediate aftermath, The Frisky announced that they have pulled Deen’s sex advice column. Joanna Angel declined to speak directly on the matter, but she tweeted that Deen is “literally the worst person I’ve ever met.”

On Monday, a large column from The Daily Beast detailed Deen’s alleged history, including claims from adult film star Sydney Leathers. She says Angel warned her about Deen: “She told me when I first got into the business that I should avoid him; that he has boundary issues, basically that he tries to break women. I took it to mean that he is dangerous.”

Leathers did not make specific accusations against Dean, but actress Ashley Fires did level allegations, saying she will not work with Deen. “The reason I put him on my ‘no list’ was because he almost raped me.” Fires also added that Deen “once [walked ]into the green room at Kink [studios], picks up Jessie Cox like a caveman, grabs her by the hair, and takes her off somewhere … and I can only imagine.”

Then we talk dating rules
That said, here are the eight dating habits — new and old — that every single person needs to know about.

1. He asks, she pays.

The one traditional dating "do" that still stands is the general belief men are supposed to make the first move. However, Match.com found 41% of women would offer to pick up the check on a first date. You hear that guys? If you ask us out for dinner, we might just foot the bill. Sounds like a win-win to us.

2. All it takes is 15 minutes.

To decide if you and your date have chemistry, that is. Thirty-one percent of both men and women agree that 15 minutes of a date is all it takes to decide. Worried your next date will bail if he's not into you? Don't, because Match.com found only 12 percent of singles would actually leave before the night was over.

3. Honesty is (still) the best policy.

Not enjoying your time out with what's his name? Tell him. The survey found 52 percent of singles think it's best to politely tell your date if you're not interested, and we agree. Neither party gets anything out of being dishonest, and you never know when you'll run into him or her again later in life. Remember: manners matter.

4. Don't go all the way.

At least not until well after your first date. Eighty percent of singles agree that you should not have sex on the first date. Holding out on your date builds mystery, and if your date can get it all in one night, they're less motivated to call back for round two.

5. It's OK to follow-up.

It's just a matter of when. Forty-eight percent of women like to follow up after a first date within 24 hours where as 68 percent of men like to "play it cool" and extend the follow-up to almost three days after your date.

6. Classic communication is best.

In this digital era, there are hundreds of ways to follow up on a date: text, e-mail, instant message, etc. But surprisingly enough the survey found 80 percent of singles prefer to talk over the phone.

7. Yes, you can Facebook friend your date.

Ah, the social media dilemma that plagues all singles. As far as