The Holy F*ck Podcast

The Holy F*ck Podcast


S3 Ep18 The Mother of All Wounds

November 25, 2020

Are you giving or receiving the mother wound? ... the stepmother wound .. grandmother... where are you in this journey?

As the Gals get into this topic, they look at all the places where the mother wound breaks through. Krista has been working on this for awhile so she’s schooling Katherine and asking some, shall we say, probing questions...

When Krista looks more closely at her own life she has a surprise... How is all this double trouble for Krista?

As the gals stick with the Mother daughter perspective…Krista turns to Bethany Webster’s work to inform this conversation.

We begin to see how we have been only given a filtered version of the women who have gone before.

Sacrifice and Serve: Mainstays of the woman’s role in supporting the patriarchy. In that system, if a woman can’t be the “perfect mother” then she also can’t be a “good person.” Mothering was all about achievement of a good mother status, then, and only then could you do something else. Women subjugated by this wound had to
live up to superhuman standards ...and they are suffocating. Shame guilt and obligation are the results of this type of life. And they pass those on to their children.

The Gals wonder.., How do we get stuck in another century with our mothers and how do we get out of it?

Where is your mother wound landed? In which 4 areas does yours land: Nurture, Protect, Empower, or Initiate? Krista and Katherine have completely different wounds... Listen to find out where that take them.

Empowering only within her reality... mother wound swings generation to generation.

How do we defeat the mother wound?

As always, it’s up to us to take responsibility for our own healing, love ourselves more and dive deep into our own generation wound.

This is not about blame and shame. It’s our work to do now.

On that journey, here are some signs of the mother wound...
Comparison
Shame
Remain small
Sense of guilt for wanting more than I have
Co-dependency
Uncertainty about relationship .. can it be lost?
Protecting sharing caring for your mother
Not being your full self
High tolerance for poor treatment from others
Emotional care taking

This is the time to reparent yourself, not waiting for everyone else to initiate you forward. to be behind me initiating myself forward.

We are the grown ups now and that means we can start bringing this to our kids.

Love yourself, heal this Muther of wound... we love you

Spread the love.

Xoxo
Katherine and Krista