The Holy F*ck Podcast

The Holy F*ck Podcast


S3 Ep8 How Good Is Your Good Girl?

September 02, 2020

Does being a Good Girl really get you what you want?



How often have you heard, “Sugar & Spice & everything Nice, that’s what girls are made of?”



The Two Gals have heard it enough to know they’re sick and tired of hearing it! They’ve said enough is enough!



In a culture where women are ashamed to be themselves and shamed to fit into the Good Girl mold, Katherine and Krista show up in a whole new way in Season 3. Tired of being left with not one single meaningful relationship and only knowing someone inch deep? Because when you’re pretending, you’re only giving them the tip…



of the iceberg that is…



They’ve come a long way baby! Throwing off their Puritan Frocks and trading them in for 50 Shades of Grey, not giving a f*** what anyone says!



So why then do we still, as women, fall into the Pretending & Pleasing game? Life is Truth and Truth is Life. As the Gals probe this subject, everyone is invited to play deeper than the tip to get to the real meat.
In Season 3, Ep. 7, Let’s Make a Deal!

Krista & Katherine tell us how they got what they really, really wanted. Or did they?

Sometimes what we really, really wanted or what we really, really needed and really, really couldn’t get wasn’t really, really what we thought it was at all. Really!

Just a little recap in case you missed Ep. 6:

Mr. Right Here, Right Now gave Krista what it was she really really needed... After six months and Krista allowing him to take the lead, their partnership has a totally different playful flavor!

Surprised? The Two Gals sure were! Mr. Right Here, Right Now is more of a freedom kinda guy, whereas Krista wanted to be the Queen Bee in the Kingdom of Monogamy. But was that what she really needed now?

So, what do you do when two people see different ways of living their lives but still love each other? They’re building a life together, buying groceries. You know, real world investments but where was the foundation?

Krista thought the big C would be the stabilizing factor but what was it? What finally lined up that created the foundation? There might still be uncertainty and triggers but with something solid to build bricks on top of, it sits differently for her. Even Mr. Right Here, Right Now is showing up differently after seeing she loved him enough to not take his “no” away. He still has his freedom but doesn’t seem to be actively seeking it as much!

But Krista’s not alone on the Let’s Make a Deal stage. Enter Mr. Delicious and Katherine!

They’re engaged? Are they engaged? Engaged? Are we? Diving deep into the abyss of cohabitating, working together, a son at home, and COVID-19. Oy! She was getting the words from Mr. Delicious and the actions would stick, intermittently, but something tended to kick its way to the surface. The see-saw of stability and instability was alive and well!

Where are they finding their way? Katherine and Mr. Delicious explore the opportunity in conflict where each person can find peace. It means being open to curiosity, flexibility, and staying present to find if what you need is right where you are or is it time to start loving from afar?

Making a deal; It’s all about the details. It’s about knowing yourself enough to get your needs met. Because loving yourself is the best way to be loved by another person.

The Two Gals had no idea when they were watching the TV game show Let’s Make a Deal, that they’d really be needing to Make a Deal! Even Mr. Right Here, Right Now and Mr. Delicious don’t know about the deals going on inside their heads!

Tune in to hear when the Two Gals gamble on the “hidden prizes” and if they turned out to be just what was needed or a whole lot more.

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Does being a Good Girl really get you what you want?



How often have you heard, “Sugar & Spice & everything Nice, that’s what girls are made of?”



The Two Gals have heard it enough to know they’re sick and tired of hearing it! They’ve said enough is enough!



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