This
is Season 1 Episode 5, and in today’s episode we’ll discuss that if you want to
be happy, get rid of the measuring stick; toxic people and what to do about it;
and enabling, the false help act of harming someone you love or want to
protect.

            As the best summary of any and all
advice worthy of sharing, I’d like to include in this program excerpts followed
by applicable commentary, from a column published in the Chicago Tribune on
June 1st, 1997 by Mary Schmich entitled “Wear Sunscreen”. I won’t
read the entire publishing because I don’t want to get a copyright strike, but
I strongly recommend you find it, read it or listen to it entirely.

Everybody’s
Free to Wear Sunscreen

Lyrics by Mary Schmich song by Baz Luhrmann

            “Wear sunscreen. If I could offer
you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits
of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has
no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this
advice now.

Enjoy
the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the
power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years,
you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are
not as fat as you imagine.

Don't
be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless
with yours.

Don't
waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.
The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember
compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell
me how.

Don't
feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most
interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their
lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.

Maybe
you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't.
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll [celebrate] your 75th wedding
anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate
yourself either. Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's.

Enjoy
your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other
people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Do
not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Don't
expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll
have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Be
careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.

But
trust me on the sunscreen.”

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            Logic would say that if you take a
business model and copy exactly the same formula from the life of a successful
person or business, you can without a doubt achieve the same results. Though
this is a good positive stance and no doubt a great place to start, the