"Oh, You Don't Go to Church?"
I've been a Christian for almost 20 years.  For 15 of those years, I went to church.  Around year 15, I began to ask a lot of questions about why Christians, in general, go to church.  I didn't realize it at the time, but a lot of people my age were asking those kinds of questions.

In my experience, people are still going to church, they just aren’t staying. The reasons are vast and after personally reviewing hundreds of reasons (http://christianity.about.com/u/ua/churchandcommunity/gotochurch.01.htm), I found this writer’s response to be most typical of why people are leaving the church:

Christian? No, a Follower of Jesus
I just don’t get the point of going to church, other than to show face in a building so other people can confirm that you are there and a good person. I can tell God wherever I am that I am thankful for all he has done for me. I recently started going again with my Mom and Step Dad, I love them with all of my heart and don’t think they are at all unintelligent, but when my Step Dad starts telling me I need to start tithing to see the Lord’s blessings and that I have to end my prayers a specific way or else they don’t get to God, that’s when I’m out. I don’t think that is God, that’s brainwashing. I want to do what is right, I want people to come to have a relationship with God on their own accord, not by force. I think my friend put it best, ‘When people ask if I am a christian, I say “No, I’m a follower of Jesus and his teachings.†—Guest Brad
3 Reasons I Don’t Go to Church:
“I Don’t Get Anything Out of Going to Church"
One big complaint I heard from the congregation at my church was that they “didn’t get anything out of the Sunday services.†They stopped going altogether and instead would just go to their Sunday school groups where the teaching was more personal and deeper than a typical seeker service. The irony is that churches often build their Sunday message around being relevant, applicable, and memorable. When I was in seminary, there were entire courses that taught students how to deliver a memorable message. Yet, by Wednesday or Thursday many Sunday morning attenders cannot recall what the three main points of the message were. If they cannot remember the points of the message, they probably aren’t practicing them in their real lives. After becoming frustrated at their own lack of growth, people leave the Sunday morning services knowing that it won’t help them much in their real lives.
“The Pastor Doesn’t Answer the ‘How’ Question.â€
One of the reasons people don’t practice what they are taught is because they don’t know what to do. On Sunday mornings, we often hear that we need to become Christ-like, Spirit led, and so forth. However, how we become Christ-like is very often missing from the sermon.  Usually pastors tell you to "read your Bible more and pray more" (Translation: try harder).  But that assumes your not really trying that hard!  It's the underlying passive-aggressive message that you're the problem, not the ministry or lack of teaching.

We gather together with the hopes of seeing God in our midst. And, this happens when all of us are centered around Christ and take on his nature in our lives. Sadly, many people don’t know what they can do to become Christ-like. Pastors tell them to just keep “trying really hardâ€, “wait for God†and somehow it will happen, but it doesn’t. They get worn out, frustrated, and leave. In church, we are given spiritual “tips†toward the spiritual life, but the techniques are either weak or missing altogether.
“I Don’t Need to Go to Church.â€
I’ve heard this conversation, or something like it, a thousand times:
30-Something: So, why should I go to church?

Pastor: It’s important that you experience the word of God with other Bible believing Christians.

30-Something: But, I talk about God and the Bible with my Christian friends. Is