Are you dealing with someone who has depression. Here's a Mentoring Minute I posted recently. Perhaps it will help: "Let’s talk about a great question God asks us from time to time. It’s “What are you doing here?” 1 Kings, Chapter 19, tells us of Elijah fleeing from Jezebel’s threat to revenge the deaths of the prophets of Baal by killing him. If you take the time to study the chapter, you will seethat Elijah first went to Beersheba and left his servant there. Then  Elijah continued on alone “a day’s journey into the wilderness” and rested under a “broom tree.” He was so depressed he asked the Lord to allow him to die, and then fell asleep. He was awakened by an angel, who encouraged him to eat and continue on his journey. Elijah then traveled for forty days and nights, until he found himself going into a cave at “Horeb, the mountain of God.”  It was there that God asked him a question. It’s found in 1 Kings 19:9 (NKJV), which says, “…and behold, the word of the Lord came to him, and He said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?”” The Lord knew perfectly well what Elijah was doing in that cave. The question was God’s way of directing Elijah to a state of mind in which he could get past his fear so he could hear what God wanted to say to him. God then told Elijah to leave the cave and stand on the mountain. There, He provided the prophet with a display of His omnipotence with powerful winds, an earthquake and a show of divine fire. Following this, the Lord repeated His initial question to Elijah, but now, in “a still small voice” (That’s found in Verses 12-13). God had taken the prophet on an indirect route to a place where He would meet with him and instruct him to move ahead to fulfill the His God-ordained purpose. After hearing God’s voice, Elijah moved on to anoint a new king over Israel and then to find Elisha, who became his disciple and eventually his successor. I’m Dr. Bob. Are we so engaged in our emotions sometimes that we’re not ready to hear God until He isolates us from our problem? He did it for Elijah. He will do it for you."