The phrase “you need to” means you are probably offering advice the other person does not want. While exchanges of perspectives and information can be good, too much of a good thing can perpetuate a feeling of defeat. In this podcast we will explore ways to eliminate defeat at home by finding positive alternatives to “you need to.” Something to Think about: Unsolicited advice, no matter how well intended, is commonly received as criticism. Your perspectives will be received in direct proportion to your willingness to elicit input from the other person. As your communication is more of a two-way process, you have less of a chance for the build up of defeated emotion. Let’s Talk: What happens inside your home when advice is given too frequently? What adjustments could you make to create balance in this matter?