This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman on whether her fiancee, newly out of prison, is truly as ready for marriage as he says he is. Listen and find out what Jay and Abiola have to say about this.

Original Letter:

I am a 40 year old woman engaged to a 36 year old man, He has been in and out of prison, He was just released in December 2013 after being incarcerated for 4 years, My question is I don't think he ready for marriage, he constantly wants to run the street on the weekend doesn't come home till 4am, He’s being secretive about his cellphone which I found naked pics of other women, He keeps telling me he is ready but I don't think he is. We take marriage counseling and our pastor really feels he is not ready,

I gave him a chance to go on with his life because I told him he have been locked down for 4 years and he hasn’t enjoyed life but he says he love me & wants to marry me but I'm scared that if I marry him I will end up hurt, this is our 3rd time together throughout the years since 1997, sorry so long but again my question is I'm wasting my time or should I give him a chance?

Signed,

Is he ready?