This week Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman who has been going back and forth with being engaged to a man. Becoming more and more complicated as time has gone on with the relationship between her and the man's grown children. Is she doom to this back and forth cycle forever?

The Letter from this week:

My ex-boyfriend asked me to marry him in Dec 2012 after four years of dating and we immediately started living together and planning a Oct 2013 wedding. He is 62 and I am 57. Six months later, in June 2013, he called off the wedding stating that he was not ready. I was crushed and had to find a new place and start over again as I had sold all my furniture when we moved in together. I was emotionally lost. Well within 2 weeks of me moving out he told me that he couldn’t live without me and could we still date. I said yes and we started dating again. Then in Nov 2013, he became quiet and withdrawn and said he wanted to date other people. Well I got extremely upset and sent an email to his grown children telling them that their father and I smoked weed and that our relationship was over. I felt the relationship was really over. He contacted me in Jan 2014 and stated that he still loved me and wanted to date me. So we have been sneaking around (without his kids and family knowing) to be together.

I love this man deeply but I don't want to sneak anymore. If we have forgiven each other, then I think his kids should forgive me but my ex- is afraid to say anything to his kids to keep the peace. I have asked him if I can apologize to his kids in person and he states that is not a good idea right now. My kids already know and have forgiven him for calling off the wedding.

Are we doomed to not be together?

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