A Gay and A NonGay

A Gay and A NonGay


Latest Episodes

Some Men In London: A Conversation with Peter Parker About Gay History
June 05, 2024

Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was tru

How To Find Gay Friends In Your 30s
May 29, 2024

How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? Jame

A Conversation with Eurovision's 2024 Winner Nemo
May 22, 2024

James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your

Can identity exist without labels?
May 15, 2024

James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about y

Is it toxic for gays to be anti-pride?
May 09, 2024

Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy? Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help him help Marie Curie here. Get tickets to see James’ new show at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com Learn more abou

Is monogamy a hoax?
May 01, 2024

James and Dan react to RuPaul saying that monogamy is a hoax. Is there such thing as monogamy with men, and is it a different script for gays and nongays?Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who Is Joel Creasey's Front Runner For Eurovision?
April 24, 2024

Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on this week's episode.Who will Joel be flirting with back stage at Eurovision? What was it like opening for

Richard Gadd on Baby Reindeer (2019 Re-Release)
April 17, 2024

Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer' creator Richard Gadd had a chat with James and Dan back in 2019 at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival when it was first performed as a stage show. Trigger Warning - this episode does contain conversations about abuse and sexual violen

Are 'TradWives' Progressive Or A Step Backwards?
April 10, 2024

Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think?In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom of the TradWives movement and answer your pressing life dilemmas.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Exploring Trans Love And Identity: 'Close To You' with Elliot Page & Dominic Savage
March 27, 2024

James and Dan share a deep conversation with Elliot Page and Dominic Savage, makers of the new film 'Close To You'.Sam (Elliot Page) has a chance encounter with an old friend (Hillary Baack) on his way home to a dreaded family reunion that forces him to