Smart, edgy and honest…that’s how I’d describe Love Junkies and my conversation with the author Christy Johnson. If you (or a friend) is stuck in a pattern of seeking love in unhealthy ways from all the wrong people, read below and tune in. The show airs at 11:05 AM MST on FaithTalk 1360 AM and you can find all shows on iTunes from my website. Be sure to share this one with your friends. Comment below to win her book.

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Unloading “Love”  Baggage and Toxic Behavior

by Christy Johnson

Have you ever felt like your romantic relationships had a lot in common with the baggage claim at the airport–a constant rotation of luggage loaded down with dirty laundry? They may look good on the outside, but inside they’re loaded down with stinky issues.

I used to wonder why I was so unlucky at love. It took a long time for me to realize that the problem was not the baggage I chose…it was me! My own issues kept me on a merry-go-round of romantic despair. But there is a way to avoid unnecessary heart ache. After many epic failures I learned that the best way to steer clear of relationship disasters is to take a look at my own soul-health.

Why is it so important to look at ourselves? It’s simple: We attract who we are. Unhealthy people attract unhealthy friends and relationships, but healthy people attract healthy friends and mates.

Experts say that we gravitate towards friends and relationships within a ten-point spread of our IQ. We are more naturally comfortable around those with whom we can intellectually relate. Likewise, in the realm of soul-health, we also attract those with whom we are most emotionally compatible. Putting it another way, baggage attracts baggage.

So if you’re tired of hanging out at the baggage claim, it’s time to take a look at your own soul-health. Whether you are believing for a mate or already married, it’s vital to eliminate toxic behaviors that threaten your peace and steal your joy because the health of your relationship will rarely exceed the health of the least healthy partner. That’s why it’s so important to become who you want!

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