“Therapy was something that really helped me navigate that point in my life. And then, as I was starting to heal childhood patterns and beliefs, I started to realize that all men, in a way, struggle with this.”

Episode summary:

In this episode, Nick speaks with Furkhan Dandia, an engineer turned therapist, about his journey and the intersection of engineering and therapy. They discuss the importance of therapy as a tool for personal growth and the need for a holistic approach to healing. Listen in as they explore the role of spirituality in the healing process and the concept of viewing challenges as opportunities for growth, as well as the importance of patience, self-compassion, and perseverance in the journey of self-discovery and personal development. 

What to listen for:

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• How a challenging chapter transitioned Furkhan into therapy and deep healing
  
  
• Takeaways and notable insights from podcasting and our own personal mental health journeys
  
  
• The ways therapy can help and also how it can assist in additional therapies
  
  
• How we can show ourselves grace during life transitions and enjoy the ride towards healing
  

“As an engineer, my go-to default is to jump into problem-solving. As a therapist, you don’t wanna do that.”

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• Engineers are trained to approach problems with immediate solutions.
  
  
• Therapy requires a different mindset, focusing on listening and understanding first.
  
  
• The distinction between technical problem-solving and human-centric therapy.
  
  
• The importance of patience and empathy in therapeutic settings.
  
  
• How transitioning from engineering to therapy involves a significant shift in approach.
  

“We as individuals already know what we need to do, and sometimes we just need to talk it out.”

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• The power of verbalizing thoughts and feelings in gaining clarity.
  
  
• The role of therapists in facilitating self-discovery and self-awareness.
  
  
• Encouragement of personal insights and intuition through conversation.
  
  
• The therapeutic value of expressing emotions and ideas.
  
  
• Understanding that solutions often come from within oneself.
  

“Therapy is like your coach. The coach will give you a play, but at the end of the day, you have to go out there and execute that play.”

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• The therapist’s role in providing guidance and strategies.
  
  
• Emphasis on personal responsibility and action in the therapeutic process.
  
  
• The analogy of therapy as coaching highlights the collaborative nature of therapy.
  
  
• The importance of applying therapeutic insights in real-life situations.
  
  
• Recognizing that progress in therapy requires active participation and effort.
  

About Furkhan Dandia

Furkhan Dandia is a therapist, author, and podcaster. Furkhan’s journey of purpose began when he went through a divorce and separation. At the time, Furkhan was mired in an existential crisis despite having a successful corporate career as an engineer. When Furkhan started to seek therapy, he realized other men like himself also struggled similarly. That is when Furkhan decided his purpose was to become an advocate for men and their mental health.

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• https://www.eunoiazen.com/
  
  
• https://www.instagram.com/eunoiazen
  
  
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/furkhan-dandia-ccc-mba-072a8a1ba/
  

Resources:

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• Check out these episodes that tackle the topic of shame
  
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  • Episode #125 with Ann Russo: “Exploring The Hidden Links Between Shame, Sexuality, And Religion”
    
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    • https://chooseyourcalling.com/hidden-links-between-shame-sexuality-and-religion/
      
    
    
    
    
  • Episode #116  with J.K Emezi: “How To Stop Struggling With Secret Compulsions And Not Let Your Porn Habit Define You”
    
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    • https://chooseyourcalling.com/secret-compulsions/
      
    
    
    
  
  
  

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