Description: Too commonly people manage tensions by going into a deep form of withdrawal that indicates punishment and contempt. While there are actually times when withdrawal can be a necessary tactic, it need not be accompanied by a message of rejection. In this episode we will examine how to find seek time for individual reflection even as relationship issues are in play. Something to Think about:   If your withdrawal illustrates feelings of deep contempt, the relationship is probably in major trouble. If you need time to gather your thoughts and feelings, you can choose to do so in a constructive fashion. Controlling behaviors are likely to lead to out of control emotions. Let’s Talk Question: Why do you suppose some people use the tactic of punishing withdrawal? What is the common result?