You Can Come Home, But My Two Boyfriends Are Here
(The Open Nesters Podcast Episode 39)






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Hi, this is Tessa. Welcome to Episode 39 of The Open Nesters Podcast. Polyamory is only one of the many topics we discuss on this podcast. As you can imagine it is a polarizing topic. It is not for everyone. And it comes with its complexity, AS DOES monogamy.






Eliza and Mark
Two divorcees find that they want something different in their lives after divorce. They each have children and they each found that they wanted an open relationship. And they found each other after the age of 50. We call it Act III. Mark and Eliza now find that a polyamorous relationship was right for them. You will not find selfishness with these two people. Rather they put their children first... and have found a way to make this new lifestyle a major success.
Mark explains how he checked jealousy at the door when he embarked on a new lifestyle. Eliza was crystal clear on what she wanted after her marriage. No to living with a new partner. No to marriage. She wanted to be able to date whomever she wanted but wanted her partner to do the same. She was married for 20 years... but really did not want to "always be a part of a couple."
There's a name for what these two were seeking: "solo polyamory." One definition:
Solo polyamory means that someone has multiple intimate relationships with people but has an independent or single lifestyle. They may not live with partners, share finances, or have a desire to reach traditional relationship milestones in which partners' lives become more intertwined






We are so pleased to share this fascinating conversation with you.






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Addendum
Since recording our interview, our relationship has changed in a way that might precipitate a crisis in a standard, monogamous couple, but is mostly a big nothing for us.

I'd been noticing for some time that Eliza wasn't respondi...