#66 – Relationship Breakups…When It’s Time to Say Goodbye Breakups are never easy. But, when they happen it’s important to learn as much about yourself as possible to fortify yourself for your next relationship. It’s also important to deal...

#65 – Never Again….I Promise How many times have we made the promise to ourselves that we won’t binge on porn again or have sex outside of our relationships? How many times have we run afoul of our own desire for a more honest and committed...

#64 – Stop the Merry-Go-Round of the Addictive Cycle Life with porn and sex addiction is life on a merry-go-round. Despite the promises we make to ourselves, we repeatedly engage in damaging sexual behavior. If we’re going to turn things around,...

#63 – From No to Yes Porn and sex addiction are often ensconced within the realm of the no. ‘No, you can’t view porn anymore.’ ‘No, sex outside of the relationship is off-limits.’ We get so used to negation within the addiction that we...

#62 – I’ve Been Triggered… Although it has been used within addictions treatment for decades, triggering has now entered common language use.   Usually, everyday use implies that someone has been angered, frustrated or upset. But,...

#61 - Improving Communication Within a Relationship Communication is key to happy lives and happy relationships. It increases empathy and works as a lubricant that helps us to process conflicts within relationships with minimal damage. Porn and sex...

#60 - Sex and Porn Addictions are Relational Disorders Not Intimacy Disorders It’s very common to hear porn and sex addiction described as disorders of ‘intimacy’. Somehow, this feels incomplete to me as, although intimacy is an important...

#59 - Sex Addiction and Gambling Disorder: Similarities and Differences An interesting study out of Spain shows that by and large sex addicts and gambling addicts are very similar in terms of personality. Since gambling disorder is an already accepted...

#58 - Can A Sex Addict Be Sex Positive? There’s a tension in the field of sex addiction between those who believe sex is a valid addiction, and therefore must be curtailed in some way, and those who believe that sex addiction is not real. Skeptics...

#57 - My Partner’s A Sex Addict – Three Possible Responses The partner’s discovery of a sex addiction within the relationship in many ways marks the end of one relationship and the beginning of another. Decisions have to be made about whether...