For years, I’ve heard and read people saying, “That’s not a need, it’s a want.” Often this comes up about sex, with the one who desires less sex, or less sexual variety, telling their spouse who wants

The last couple of days I’ve talked about how our fear of others trying to make us someone we are not leads to us having fights about silly things in our marriages. I think one thing that helps preven

Yesterday I suggested a major reason we fight with our wives about things that don’t really matter is that we have a lifetime of other people trying to make us someone we are not. What makes it worse

Has this ever happened to you? I finish a “heated discussion” with my wife and then wonder what possessed me to act as I did. The issue we were arguing about was nothing. It really didn’t matter, and

The other day I got to know a fellow who has been attending our church for about a year. We had talked at church a few times but never spent much time together. He came into the coffee place where Lor

What do you imagine your spouse prays for/about you? Are you in agreement? #MarriageTip If your wife is a follower of Jesus, she probably prays for you. Do you know what she prays for you?  What she p

We’ve all heard it said men only want sex from their wives. While this is not true, there are men who sure do make it seem that way. Some of those guys are selfish and really are far too focused on se

Have you ever heard that foreplay starts in the kitchen or that foreplay is everything you do from the moment you get up till you have (or try to have) sex? I call that stuff “beforeplay”. Foreplay is

Yesterday I gave an example of making our problem a problem for our wife. There are a great many ways men and women do this to their spouses and all of them are destructive, hurtful, and unloving. Bef

When Lori and I got married, I had very low relationship distress tolerance. Any hint that she was upset with me put me in a tailspin. My choices then were driving myself crazy with obsessive thoughts