As I said last week, we all have a natural desire to be in control. We want to be the master of our own destiny, so to speak. We want to do what we want to do, when and how we want to do it. We understand marriage means we have to let go []The post

One of the common marriage arguments is about the house, or a part of it, being messy. And the majority of the time its the wife upset about how messy her husband is. A group on Instagram who say they are #1 Community for...The post Science Says Clutte

My Bible reading just went through Ecclesiastes, and one verse grabbed me: Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools. ~ Eccl 7:9 ESV In the last few decades, there has been a lot of... The post The Wisdom of Eccle

Making your wife feel loved is done a little at a time, all the time. Doing something big is nice, but you cant make her feel loved by doing big things once in a while. Its the slow, steady drip that matters. Consistency is...The post The Constant Drip

Forty-eight years ago, the song Afternoon Delight came out, creating a great term for afternoon sex. For much of our marriage, I was not home most afternoons, other than Sunday. That, plus being busy and having kids at home, limited our chances to put...

Im convinced control is a major problem in many marriages. One or both spouses feels less in control than they want to be, resulting in them doing all kinds of odd, rude, destructive, and just plain crazy things. We do things to try to...The post FF: Th

A comment on a recent post talked about how tricky it can be to urge your wife to do something she really should do. Taking better care of her body is one example, and it can be a minefield. You want her to lose... The post Encouraging Your Wife’s Self-Im

This post is about affairs. Im not posting it on Saturday because affairs are not primarily about sex. Its much deeper than that. Esther Perel, the psychotherapist who wrote Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, says affairs happen because

I watched an interesting couple interaction at church today. The husband had taken their kids down to Sunday School after worship. When he came back, he sat one chair away from his wife. He silently explained this to her by pointing to the AC... The post

On Thursday, I talked about the harm we can do by pushing our wives to do things they really dont want to do. Today I want to apply that to sex. But theres an additional challenge here; many men are unaware they have done...The post Unintended Sexual P