I recently told the ladies over on The XY Code that Men Dont Get Womens Sexual Dynamics. How could we? We dont have female sex organs, we dont have a female brain, and we didnt grow up being told how women are supposed to...The post Unraveling t

This lie is a whopper! We want to think our marriage is just about us, and its no one elses business. This gives us the right to tell others to butt out when they try to talk to us about our marriages. However, this...The post FF: Marriage Lie: Your

On Tuesday, I talked about emotional self-regulation, and choosing to not self-regulate in order to manipulate your spouse. And I suspect some of you thought your wife does this when she cries. I know some women use tears to get their way, or to... The po

I have a five-year-old grandson who has issues with emotional self-regulation. Hes past full-on meltdowns, but he still struggles to behave acceptably when he is disappointed or disciplined. This is to be expected at his age, and I have no doubt he will

What little gift would your wife appreciate? Flowers? Chocolate? A replacement for a kitchen tool she just broke? Every woman is different, but there is certainly some token of your love that would stir her heart. Figure out what it is, and give it.... Th

Let me ask you a question: What would it take for you and your wife to have more sex? If your answer is For my wife to say yes more often youre probably wrong. Aside from bad teaching she got when she was young,...The post Why She Says No to Sex (And

We grow up with an image of what marriage is, but that image is not all truth. For many of us, its more lie than truth. Our thinking about marriage is far more shaped by the media than we realise. We all know what...The post FF: Marriage Lie: What You S

I was recently talking to a fellow who said he and his wife will from time to time ask each other if life is hard or bad? What a great question! Or should I say, what a great way to help each other frame... The post Is Life Hard or Bad? first appeared on

Have you and your wife planned a vacation for this year? A few days away together will do wonders for your marriage. Even a long weekend a short drive away is a good thing. Talk about it. Dream about it. Find a way to... The post Recharge Your Marriage Wi

The image with this post is a train station in Japan. The odd thing is the only way to reach this station is by train. You cant drive or bike to it. You cant even hike to it! So why is it there? Its...The post A Reminder to Stop and Appreciate Lifes