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OK beautiful Woman… LANGUAGE WARNING at the midway mark of this video!
I'm not going to apologize for being me because the truth is I DO get fired up when I talk about REAL love!

(It is bleeped out though, just in case you're offended by a little fiery language!)

Today we’re talking about love. Not a surprise considering the work I do, and considering my deep down belief that you and I ARE the love we week…literally!

Let’s expand it out a little though shall we?

In my 12+ years of working with women from around the world, here's what I’ve noticed.

Even though we’re all capable, competent, intelligent modern women, and we know we don’t need a man to ride in on a white horse and save us, or to provide the ‘white-picket-fence-happy-ever-after’ fantasy, there are deeply ingrained ‘stories’ in our psyche about how love 'should' be.

And these 'stories' often remain an strong underlying influence on how we love in life, and in intimate relationship.

So let’s open a conversation about the modern woman’s CONSCIOUS way to love.

…YOUR unique way to love.

Here’s the thing.

We all have ways that we’re ‘comfortable’ giving love, and ways we’re not.

For example, if you were raised to NEVER get angry, then as a woman, you’ll probably be afraid to express ‘fierce love’.

If you’ve been compromised in some way, you may have decided it was unsafe to be vulnerable, and so maybe you avoid giving and receiving ‘vulnerable love’.

If you have an underlying fear, shame or embarrassment around being freely sexual, then maybe you avoid giving and receiving love in the form of delicious and wild sexual merging with your intimate partner.

And so it goes…

Love moves though you in many ways.
Remember, you ARE love.
And when you consciously gift the love you are to your partner, however it moves through you  spontaneously you gift each other in ways you could never have imagined.

What an empowering, and fulfilling juicy way to live!!!

When you deny it, or suppress it, you deny yourself of that form of love, and your partner. You deny yourself and your partner the intrinsic nourishment, fulfillment, aliveness, and freedom that comes with that BEING, GIVING AND RECEIVING, that love.

And...
whatever you avoid expressing in healthy ways, will inevitably come out in destructive ways.
For example, fierce love, is just as important in relationship as tender love, or supportive love, or any other kind of love because it's important to express how you feel when your partner is out of integrity.

And when it’s expressed unconditionally, with an open heart, it serves you, your man and the world.
(See video for my very ‘expressive’ example of this. (BLEEP WARNING!)
Equally if you’re great at fierce love but find it difficult to love tenderly or softly, then you deny yourself and your partner that way of loving.

Now there’s no wrong or right here, so don’t go getting your pen out and start making a list of all the things that you have to ‘fix’ about yourself!

It’s NOT about that.

There’s NOTHING missing in you. You’re NOT broken…(despite what the personal development world, and even a lot of religions and new age modalities might tell you)

There’s nothing to fix.

You’re a beautiful, whole, complete woman as you are.

YOU…Are love embodied.

The question is..Will you ALLOW yourself to live as the love you are in all your complexities and flavours?

Or will you deny yourself and the world of that love?
How you love yourself (or don’t), is how you tend to love others (or don’t)!
So my invitation to you today is grab a pen and paper, write down all the ways you feel comfortable loving, and all the ways that you tend to avoid loving.

Be honest with yourself. And when you do this, breathe fully down into your belly so you can FEEL the answers, rather than THINK them.

By the way, when you recognize a particular way of loving that you find difficult,