This is my absolute favorite time of the year. The period between Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year is a time of major celebration for me and my family but I also recognize that while the holidays may be the most wonderful time of the year for some, that's not necessarily true when it comes to relationships.

When you're already struggling in your marriage, it can be a challenging time during the holiday season where you have the gatherings and additional time together than you might during other parts of the year, which can create a lot more opportunities for conflict and issues. And so in honor of this time of year, I want to provide you with an amazing resource that I created that will help you get through the holidays, fight free. 

In this episode, we are going to discuss avoiding arguments in the first place. I'm sure all of us would like to have many fewer arguments or difficult conversations that don't end well.  Specifically, you’ll learn:

• How emotionally reactive are you, scale of one to 10
• How to value your partner's perspective as much as your own
• How to look at the positive in your communication with your spouse 
• Consider that there are multiple solutions that take both of you to figure out 
• How to tolerate negative emotions and not use them as an act of war 

I encourage you to grab a pen and a notebook so you can jot down these nuggets and laser in on what is most applicable and relevant for you.