In this episode, Andrew welcomes John and Cindy Raquet to the show to discuss their book, Purposeful and Persistent Parenting. We discuss the importance of recognizing that parents and children’s struggles with sin differ. We also discuss the challenges of parenting eight children and how the book’s authors discovered the concept of blue-tape boundaries while child-proofing their house. Finally, we discuss the idea of using boundaries as a blessing rather than a burden and the importance of having grace for both child and parent. My guests emphasize the importance of consistency when teaching children about boundaries and suggest that families buy a bulk of the book as a resource for new parents. The episode gives listeners an insight into how to better parent with purpose and persistence.

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Chapters:

(0:03:16) – Parenting by Experience

(0:07:49) – Houseproofing Your Child

(0:11:48) – Boundaries as a Blessing for Parenting

(0:25:29) – Grace Filled Parenting and Consistent Boundaries

(0:33:58) – The Importance of Consistency in Parenting

(0:43:05) – Being Purposeful and Persistent in Parenting(0:52:58) – Protecting Our Children

(0:59:25) – Protecting Our Children

(1:09:21) – Purposeful and Persistent Parenting

Chapter Summaries:

(0:03:16) – Parenting by Experience (5 Minutes)

This conversation focuses on parenting and the challenges that come with it. They discuss their experiences parenting eight children and how they have learned from their mistakes. They also talk about how their family has grown with grandchildren and how they were inspired to write a book about parenting. The book is unique in that it provides practical advice, not just theoretical principles, and it also involves using blue tape.

(0:07:49) – Houseproofing Your Child (4 Minutes)

The authors discuss the importance of setting boundaries with children. The book’s authors discovered the concept of blue tape boundaries while child-proofing their home. They realized that instead of child-proofing their house, they should train their children to respect boundaries. To do this, they used a blue tape boundary to separate the linoleum kitchen floor from the carpeted dining room area, teaching their crawling child to stay on the carpet. This approach proved to be successful.

(0:11:48) – Boundaries as a Blessing for Parenting (14 Minutes)

The authors discuss using boundaries as a blessing rather than a burden. The book introduces the idea of using blue tape as a visual reminder to young children of areas they are not allowed to explore. It is emphasized that this is an idea, not a hard and fast rule, and that consistency is critical in teaching children the concept of boundaries. Grace-filled parenting is discussed, and the idea of having grace for both child and parent is explored.

(0:25:29) – Grace Filled Parenting and Consistent Boundaries (8 Minutes)

The authors discuss the concept of grace-filled parenting and the importance of not complaining about children. Grace-filled parenting is rooted in the understanding that our relationship with our children is not based on their performance and that our children are unmitigated blessings from the Lord. This relationship must still be balanced with teaching our children to obey and live within the boundaries set by God. Additionally, it is essential to not complain about our children to show them the gift they are and to help them learn to take their burdens to the Lord.

(0:33:58) – The Importance of Consistency in Parenting (9 Minutes)

The authors focus on the importance of consistency in parenting. They begin by discussing how it may be difficult for a child to have a situation where it is okay to be mean and yell at each other when it is just them at home, yet different when someone else is around. The goal should be to create integrity and consistency in all areas of life. The authors talk about personal experiences with their children and the importance of consistency in parenting.

(0:43:05) – Being Purposeful and Persistent in Parenting (10 Minutes)

The authors discussed having a plan and proactively teaching children rather than simply reacting to their behavior. The importance of consistency between parents and consistency over time is also discussed. To avoid fights, everyone in the household should show more love than they receive. Further, parenting pitfalls are identified, such as responding to complicated situations in the grocery store without proactively teaching children ahead of time. Ideas are provided on how to have these conversations with children in a relaxed environment.

(0:52:58) – Protecting Our Children (6 Minutes)

The authors discussed the idea of defining obedience and how to teach children to obey without it being based on the parent’s emotional state. A consistent standard of obedience was recommended, where everyone in the room can recognize when disobeying has occurred. Additionally, the importance of protecting children was discussed, and how to combat the culture of entitlement and feelings-based justice. The significance of the book, ‘Purposeful and Persistent Parenting’ was highlighted as a valuable resource for parents.

(0:59:25) – Protecting Our Children (10 Minutes)

The conversation covers the importance of protecting children from potentially harmful influences. Andrew talks about his experience training his children to know the keyword for when someone was picking them up from school. They emphasize the importance of having wisdom when it comes to protecting children from dangers and that this does not mean that children should never be exposed to anything evil. Andrew also talks about how parents need to be aware of the potential dangers of modern technology, such as the American version of TikTok, and how children may not be aware of the possible consequences of their actions.

(1:09:21) – Purposeful and Persistent Parenting (5 Minutes)

The authors cover a range of topics on how to create a family culture and how to train children, such as how to deal with whining, how to create a schedule, how to sit still, meal times, bible memory, and training children when they are not in the home. The conversation emphasizes that parenting is a journey of hard work that comes with great blessings and that parents should be purposeful and persistent in their parenting.

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