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Protracted job searches can wear down your resilience. Dealing with repetitive rejection can lead to dejection. Scott and Andrew discuss strategies to approach your rejection using empowering strength.Don't miss these Topics:Knowing it's normal and healthy to feel dejected.Rejection is never about you.How to be an active agent of your career future.Changing perspective on failure.Preparing yourself to take a "no."Finding things you can control.Resources (including affiliate links)Ray Schalk - Baseball Hall Of Famer iTunes: Rate and ReviewRaw and Unedited TranscriptView Transcript0:00 - 05:05Today on job seekers radio were talking about dealing with repetitious rejection and doing that with empowering strength have rejection something, everybody dislikes. There's a human being on earth that enjoys rejection. Well, maybe I shouldn't say that there may be somebody who's thank you, another. Yes. Generally speaking, nobody likes rejection. And when you get it over and over again, that can really mess with your head personal experience was during the great recession, I was unemployed for three years. And I really had a tough time. I was doing a little bit of consulting during the time. That's worked that I enjoyed then but it wasn't enough. And as time passed, I got more and more desperate. When you're in that situation, the feelings of doubt are inescapable. So the idea of having empowering strength can seem to be out of your rage. Well, whether it's you being overlooked for promotion, or you know, you're doing everything you can to get an interview, but nothing's happening or maybe had some great interviews. And no go. Yeah. Yeah. And I actually had a coal with the gentleman this week, who had been looking for a year four hundred applications or some such thing he'd had a handful of interviews. No offers. He had an ino-. Here's the thing, Scott. He'd also paid for coaching. He paid for a resume writer, he made all the investments, he he was doing all the right thing. And he was still feeling  dejected. Yeah. From all the rejection as I say it's inescapable to feel that way. I guess there are a few things that I say to people when they bring this to me, is, first of all, you have a right to feel that way, it is normal, and healthy to feel that way. You shouldn't get down on yourself because you feel that way because this is a normal reaction. Yes, we wanna do something different, so that you can change the way you feel. And that's really where we where we go with this conversation. The first step. App. In understanding, what's happening is rejection is never about you. It is always about the other person that opens the door there. Many possible reasons why that person isn't making the connection that you want them to make. But it is not about you. It is not about your employability, or your ability to move up, or your worthiness or really any of the, the things that we tell ourselves that. Oh on not good enough. Because fill in the blank, right? It's usually because someone else is reacting or they have something else in mind, or they don't know what they want that often happens and as tough as it is to do a job. Search getting those impersonal emails and no engagement from the other side. It stinks it in so I can see how that would wear down on somebody in. And it's normal for that to happen. That's why we always encourage people to do the networking piece is gonna put you at an advantage. But the idea here is there not rejecting you. They might have accepted somebody else. And if that's the case, then again, it's not about you. It's about them accepting somebody else, but that doesn't mean they're saying no to you. You're saying yes to somebody. Yes. And the, the other side of that is if they say that your qualifications weren't as good matches they want I encourage people to ask why you may not get the answer. And that's also not about you. I've had experience in doing interviews where the other person ac...