The right question is not "How can I be more confident, more leader-like, more influential...?", but rather, "what beliefs and stories am I hanging on to that I should let go of?"

Can you let go of the need to perfect, to be right, to be accepted and wanted?  Can you let go of the need for certainty or an easy life?  What about your fears?

What about your need for approval?

If you're trying to influence people and make change - you need to make sure your game is tight first.